thanks everyone for your messages. it's been a difficult time for us, but we're trying to get back to "normal" life and think of happy memories.
last saturday, my mother--in-law collapsed from a ruptured aneurysm and slipped into a coma. for days her children, family and friends were praying for her to wake up, but her condition was so terrible... so severe... and she passed away on thursday leaving us all very empty and sad.
it was only a few weeks ago when we were in new york for my friend's baby shower. we stayed with my husband's sister and his mother and we laughed with her and ate her meals. she bought me clothes and asked if i liked them.... i told her i loved them.
when her friends visited the hospital they asked me if i was the youngest daughter-in-law. they told me that my mother-in-law had gone shopping with them and picked out the tops. when she saw her friends next, she told them how much i loved the tops. they asked, "are you sure your daughter-in-law wasn't just saying that?" but my mother-in-law said.. "no. she really liked them. she really did. i know." they told me they were happy that my mother-in-law and i had that moment to share before she passed. i'm glad my mother-in-law had such thoughtful friends. one lady continued to send texts to my mother-in-law's cell phone even on the day of her burial...
it was hard seeing her in a coma because she was such an active woman. it was hard seeing my husband so distraught because she was all he had. it was hard seeing my husband and my brother and sister in law say their final good-byes. it was too soon.
and this was all so sudden and unexpected. she had so much more life to live. she was finally going to get the opportunity to go back back to her home country after being away for 19 years. these are the things that make it more difficult to accept that she has passed... but we are trying to find some comfort knowing that she is reunited with her husband whom she lost 12 years ago.
my mother-in-law was loved. it showed in the outpouring of love she received from friends and family, but mostly through her three children. many were saddened to have her go and many more remembered her kindest, funniest and gentlest moments. they all showed up to say thank you for having touched their lives.
she will be extremely missed.
may she rest in peace.